What Scares You.....
All of us can answer differently to the above question! I would say "Creepy Crawlies" of the world..but that does not mean that I would not try to face them when the situation demands, avoid as I may!
When it comes to Fears, its like an omnipresent chapter in our lives, the face of it may differ from person to person. But one thing we all are scared of.."Failure"!!
How we deal with the fear is another aspect. Some may deny it, others would ignore it, few may succumb to it. Best is to deal with it!
It is the same in our journey to fertility, we pass the same stages of denial, ignorance and for some , succumbing to it. Then there are those brave souls who deal with it! Hats off to them!! A woman who has a mortal fear of needles, going through a fertility treatment is to me like a brave soldier who has pulled up her socks and gathered her armamentarium of strengths and has declared war on the hurdles in between her and the conception she so desires!Even though she hollers when a needle jabs her, she is Brave, for what she has decided to undertake!
Women treading this road and men, lets not forget them too, have to see a new face of fear with each turn of road. the fear of being unable to do this, the fear of what people may say, the fear of what the doctor may opine and yes, the fear of what if they...Fail!!
We do not have answers to all those questions, nor a swatter to ally those anxieties into oblivion...what we do have is a friend to talk to always, a doctor to clarify all that is foggy and yes, to hold hands through those dark bends that show up from time to time in the course of the journey.
The assurance that its OK to be scared, to voice that fear and to understand the process of fertility treatment goes a long way in helping overcome the mind blocks.
What is also important is to know that this sharp horrible appearing needle pointed towards me is going to be as gentle as possible, is for my own good and its going to be over soon and sun will shine again!
So for all those brave hearts venturing into fertility treatment, its not that bad. Its the most finely tuned treatment process that takes YOU as the first consideration and would perhaps make you wonder "what really was all the fuss about"!!!
Have a look also at the link below-
http://www.ivf.net/ivf/emotionally-and-physically-preparing-for-ivf-o3871.html
When it comes to Fears, its like an omnipresent chapter in our lives, the face of it may differ from person to person. But one thing we all are scared of.."Failure"!!
How we deal with the fear is another aspect. Some may deny it, others would ignore it, few may succumb to it. Best is to deal with it!
It is the same in our journey to fertility, we pass the same stages of denial, ignorance and for some , succumbing to it. Then there are those brave souls who deal with it! Hats off to them!! A woman who has a mortal fear of needles, going through a fertility treatment is to me like a brave soldier who has pulled up her socks and gathered her armamentarium of strengths and has declared war on the hurdles in between her and the conception she so desires!Even though she hollers when a needle jabs her, she is Brave, for what she has decided to undertake!
Women treading this road and men, lets not forget them too, have to see a new face of fear with each turn of road. the fear of being unable to do this, the fear of what people may say, the fear of what the doctor may opine and yes, the fear of what if they...Fail!!
We do not have answers to all those questions, nor a swatter to ally those anxieties into oblivion...what we do have is a friend to talk to always, a doctor to clarify all that is foggy and yes, to hold hands through those dark bends that show up from time to time in the course of the journey.
The assurance that its OK to be scared, to voice that fear and to understand the process of fertility treatment goes a long way in helping overcome the mind blocks.
What is also important is to know that this sharp horrible appearing needle pointed towards me is going to be as gentle as possible, is for my own good and its going to be over soon and sun will shine again!
So for all those brave hearts venturing into fertility treatment, its not that bad. Its the most finely tuned treatment process that takes YOU as the first consideration and would perhaps make you wonder "what really was all the fuss about"!!!
Have a look also at the link below-
http://www.ivf.net/ivf/emotionally-and-physically-preparing-for-ivf-o3871.html
You r good doc!
ReplyDeleteluv d article.....its good to see some heart in a doc's perspective and not be all clinical ..which makes us patients cynical!
dere must b more like u..juss in case i need one i want d doc to b like you!
u really are tooo goood to be true..
Thanks Namita..There are lots of us! like i said, perhaps some of us are scared to show the soft side for the fear of being taken lightly!!
ReplyDeletei agree.....
ReplyDeletehaving been through this (needed 14 HCg shots in one of the cycles...)i think i put up quite a brave front!!!!BTW...luckily that was the cycle when i concieved finally!!